How to stop being selfish | According to the Bible

How to stop being selfish | According to the Bible

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All of us without exception need at some point in our lives to ask ourselves this question and try to apply its answer in our lives.

To ask ourselves how can I stop being selfish is a step forward in ceasing to be selfish because it is an acknowledgement of the problem.

This is the first step towards freedom.

Think about this reality: Our society is built on the basis of selfishness.

Adam Smith, the father of capitalism, illustrated it many years ago better than I can:

“It is not the benevolence of the butcher, the brewer, or the baker that procures food for us, but the consideration of their own interest.

 

We do not invoke their humanitarian feelings but their selfishness; nor do we talk to them about our needs, but about their advantages”

In my opinion, as unregenerated human beings, we work for our own benefit and our own interests 99% of the time, this includes the interests of our family which are also our own.

The other 1% of the time, when we do something for someone else, even if it’s hard to accept it, it is very likely that we almost always do it for selfish reasons.

Whether it’s to feel good about ourselves, to calm our conscience, to accumulate -good karma- or to try to save ourselves from punishment on the day of judgment.

That is the sinful nature of humanity on which our societies are based.

Selfishness.

That is the complete nature of those who do not have the Spirit of God.

The full nature of the one who is not born again in the grace and love of the Lord.

The apostle Paul recommends to us through the Bible:

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.

 

Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

 

Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus,  who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.

 

And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.

 

Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, so now, not only as in my presence but much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure.

 

Do all things without grumbling or disputing, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world(…)

 

| ‭‭Philippians 2:3-8, 12-15‬

According to the above statement, being a Christian is a beautiful act of “rebellion” against that system of selfishness.

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.

 

Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

So let us review some ideas about how we can stop being selfish.

Loving our neighbor as ourselves

In my opinion, the key to stopping being selfish, as well as overcoming any other flaw of character, is to be like Jesus.

In the sense of loving our neighbor as ourselves.

This means to recognize the image of God in them, and understanding that they, as much as us, are participants in the riches and benefits of God’s love, which are poured out on humanity.

I don’t know about you, but this sounds totally contrary to the life that most of the world lives.

Becoming like Jesus is a feat that seems impossible to accomplish on our own.

Instead, it is something that God accomplishes in us when we walk daily near Him.

Understanding that selfishness is programmed in our minds

Another important element in the process of stopping being selfish is understanding that it’s not an issue about just you and me.

Instead, it is something that is intrinsically programmed in our minds because of the influence of evil on this planet.

A reality that may sound difficult to hear, is that on this planet things are not working according to God’s way, but in the way of sin.

Virtually everything is distorted by sin, going against God’s will and the original design that governs nature and the entire universe: “love.”

For this reason, the Lord incessantly urges us not to love the world, nor the things of this world, but to help rescue those who live according to its system.

Recognizing that we cannot do it alone

To stop being selfish is a task that exceeds our capabilities, since it requires a change in our nature.

It is a work that only God can do in us, and for which it is necessary for us to give our hearts to Him so that He regenerates them in the image of His own.

It is a process of a whole life surrendered at the feet of the Lord, in which He increasingly teaches us to be like Jesus.

This is how those of us who live with and for Christ “shine like stars in the firmament,” whose rays can illuminate with hope the dense darkness and confusion that shelters this planet.

To be light for healing and salvation in the midst of this “crooked and depraved generation” that Satan holds prey to in his nets.

Conclusion

“Let us take care of our salvation” and that of others with the urgency that it really has; “with fear and trembling” because it is an issue of utmost importance.

Imitating Christ implies renouncing to self, out of love for Him and as a sign of love for our neighbor.

Let us ask the Lord to transform us and to make us again.

May He make us according to His likeness, and may He, by the Holy Spirit, renew us into a new nature.

To be like Him, the greatest of servants, who renounced unimaginable glories to submit to the greatest of humiliations.

Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.


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How to stop being selfish | According to the Bible

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