Confessing Adultery To God But Not Spouse, might seem the easiest solution for your mistake, but is it the right thing to do?
The Bible considers adultery as a grave transgression that goes against God’s law and can have serious consequences for a marriage. The commandment in Exodus 20:14 plainly states, “Thou shalt not commit adultery.” Moreover, Proverbs 6:32 emphasizes the foolishness and self-destruction that come with such immoral behavior. It’s essential to understand that adultery is not only a violation against God but also a breach of the trust and fidelity that a spouse deserves, as highlighted in 1 Corinthians 7:4. The Bible makes it clear that both partners should honor each other and maintain a loving and loyal relationship.
Another significant teaching in the Bible is that God is merciful and compassionate towards those who repent of their sins and seek His forgiveness. This is beautifully captured in 1 John 1:9, which assures us that if we confess our transgressions, God is both faithful and righteous to pardon us and purify us from all wrongdoing. We also see an inspiring example of repentance in Psalm 51, where King David, after committing adultery with Bathsheba, pleaded with God for forgiveness and cleansing. David recognized his mistake and turned to God in humility, asking Him to create a pure heart within him and renew his spirit. This highlights the importance of acknowledging our faults, seeking forgiveness, and striving to live righteously.
Do I have to confess my adultery to my spouse?
It’s essential to recognize that admitting your wrongdoing to God does not absolve you of the obligation to face the consequences of your actions or the responsibility to make amends with those you have harmed. As per Numbers 32:23, if you fail to take responsibility for your actions, you will still have sinned against the Lord, and eventually, the truth will be revealed. Similarly, Galatians 6:7 reminds us that we cannot deceive God and that we will ultimately reap what we sow. Thus, confessing to God necessitates accepting accountability for our actions, including being honest with our spouse and seeking their forgiveness where appropriate. The Holy Spirit can provide guidance on how best to proceed in such situations.
What the bible says about confessing adultery to your spouse
There are compelling biblical reasons why confessing your wrongdoing to your spouse is crucial.
- Firstly, honoring God’s truth and justice requires us to be truthful in our relationships, as lying is an abomination to the Lord (Proverbs 12:22). Additionally, as members of the same body, Ephesians 4:25 admonishes us to put away falsehood and speak the truth to each other.
- Secondly, seeking forgiveness and reconciliation with your spouse is vital, as Jesus teaches in Matthew 5:23-24 that we should seek reconciliation with anyone we have wronged before offering our gift to God. Colossians 3:13 also highlights the importance of forgiveness and forbearance in our relationships, modeling the forgiveness that we received from the Lord.
- Finally, confessing our transgressions to our spouse can help restore trust and intimacy in our marriage, as per Proverbs 28:13 and James 5:16. By confessing and forsaking our sins, we can receive mercy and healing in our relationships.
When considering confessing adultery to your spouse, it’s important to keep in mind the following:
- Protecting your spouse from further pain and harm. Proverbs 17:9 says, “Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends,” and Proverbs 10:12 says, “Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.”
- Your spouse and yourself might be further tempted to sin if you both don’t hold to Christ and fully forgive and repent. Romans 13:14 says, “But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires,” and Matthew 18:7 says, “Woe to the world for temptations to sin! For it is necessary that temptations come, but woe to the one by whom the temptation comes!”
- Relying on God’s grace and forgiveness is crucial. Psalm 32:5 says, “I acknowledged my sin to you, and I did not cover my iniquity; I said, ‘I will confess my transgressions to the Lord,’ and you forgave the iniquity of my sin,” and 1 Timothy 1:15 says, “The saying is trustworthy and deserving of full acceptance, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners, of whom I am the foremost.”
- Seeking guidance from the Holy Spirit and godly counsel is also important. John 16:13 says, “When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth,” and Proverbs 11:14 says, “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.”
As you might have noticed, there is not a simple, painless way out of your problem. It would be best if you prayerfully and thoughtfully ponder the situation, taking into account the biblical principles and your marriage’s unique circumstances. It would be best to seek God’s guidance and direction through His word and the Holy Spirit, and seek the advice and encouragement of wise and experienced Christians who can offer you guidance. In the end, you should do what glorifies God, honors your spouse, and fosters mending and reconciliation in your relationship with both.
I trust that the information I have shared with you has provided some guidance and comfort during this challenging and distressing time. I understand that grappling with the aftermath of infidelity can be a complex and emotional process, but I firmly believe that God’s love and grace can help you overcome this struggle. It is my sincerest hope that you will draw strength and courage from His Word, and that you will seek His guidance and direction as you navigate through this difficult season. Remember that God’s love for you is unconditional, and that He is always willing to extend forgiveness and restoration to those who sincerely seek it. May you find solace in His presence, and may His peace that surpasses all understanding guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
May God bless you and your spouse.
God’s forgiveness for adultery
Adultery is a painful mistake that brings terrible consequences on the lives of the people involved.
If you ask yourself, can God forgive my adultery?
Could it be that there is forgiveness for a person who has committed adultery?
I would like to share with you a story that I read last night in the Bible.
It touched my heart and relates to the subject of adultery.
What do you say, do we read it?.
(…) Jesus went to the Mount of Olives.
At dawn he appeared again in the temple courts, where all the people gathered around him, and he sat down to teach them.
The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery.
They made her stand before the group 4 and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery.
In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?”
They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him.
But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger.
When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.”
Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.
At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there.
Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”
“No one, sir,” she said.
“Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”
Let me recap the story of this adulterous woman with you a bit.
At the beginning of the story, we can see that Jesus was not only with two or three people, he was with all the people.
Mary was a sinful woman, like all human beings.
An imperfect woman who had a great struggle.
Sadly, she was an adulterous woman.
The Pharisees and scribes were waiting for Jesus to give them an opportunity to make him fall into a trap.
They looked, according to them, for the perfect strategy.
They wanted to see if Jesus would recommend imposing law, they wanted to hear him say that she would be stoned to blame him with the Romans for murder.
At the same time, they wanted to see if, on the contrary, he said that they should not stone her to accuse him of not respecting the law of Moses.
These men found Mary in the midst of a shameful act of adultery.
I imagine she was taken out while all the eyes of the people of the village were looking at her as if she was the most sinful person in the world.
I can’t imagine her horrible feeling.
I guess she just closed her eyes and imagined the stones falling on her.
Mary felt perhaps the dirtiest person in the world.
That is what happens when we suffer in the flesh the shame that the consequences of sin bring upon us.
Maybe, if you’ve also been discovered in adultery, you may have felt that way.
She didn’t imagine that Jesus looked at her with compassion and mercy, just as he looks at us now.
The law of Moses demanded the death of adulterers, but they had only brought the woman, protecting the man.
In this case, the woman found committing adultery was supposed to be sentenced to die by stoning.
Mary knew the consequence of her actions.
She was aware of her fault, she thought there was no hope anymore.
She waited, terrified for the moment when the stones would fall on her body.
The only thing that awaited her was death.
Perhaps it has ever happened to us that we are aware of the sin we are committing, but we do not look at the consequences that these may entail.
It is not until we are faced with the clear consequences of those actions that we react to the reality of what we were doing.
Maybe, like that woman, you’ve been discovered already, or maybe you haven’t yet.
Regardless of the circumstance, deliberately persisting in this or any other sin will lead us to the same certain destiny, to death.
Every act has a consequence, for better or for worse, and that must be taken into account.
But let’s go back to the sad reality of Mary, the Pharisees and scribes accused her.
Could it be that they cared about this woman?
They, in their selfishness, were only looking for an opportunity to make Jesus fall.
Whether she died, they didn’t care.
Did Jesus know the law with which she was accused?
Of course, he knew it.
But the supreme love he had for her and his great mercy, motivated him to free her from her guilt and to give her forgiveness.
There are those who, sadly, are in this terrible situation.
Sunk into sin, realizing how low we have fallen, we cling so much to the world, to its pleasures, that we put God aside.
Maybe sometimes we try to fight to give up that sin that we are not able to leave, and we still fail.
Mary’s story teaches us that freedom from adultery is found at the feet of Jesus.
When we find ourselves there with nothing to offer.
When we finally recognize our wickedness and want to stop living in it.
Mary is an example for us to think again today, and decide not to continue in that sin for good by taking the hand of Christ.
We see Jesus bowing his face, and writing on the ground with his finger.
Meanwhile, the Pharisees insisted that Jesus give them an answer.
But he was just quiet and kept writing.
It is believed by some that he wrote down the sins of each of those who accused that woman.
Were there any who were free from sin?
No, friends, everyone in that place was a sinner, not just Mary.
Jesus answers them:
“Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.”
And nobody threw the stone.
No one ended Mary’s life.
The remorse, the knowledge that they were also equal or worse of sinners than Mary, did not let them end her life.
From the youngest to the oldest, everyone knew they were sinners.
And Jesus full of so much love says to her:
“Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”
Nor do I condemn you, Jesus said.
Go and sin no more.
Today Jesus wants to tell you, I do not condemn you, you are still in time to surrender your sin to me and let me cleanse you.
There is also forgiveness for adultery.
There is forgiveness for you.
For God, there is no sin impossible to forgive when a repentant heart cries out to be delivered from the bonds of sin.
You need to see the reality of the terrible mistake you made and ask for forgiveness from the bottom of your heart.
God may not remove the earthly consequences of your sin, but he will keep you from the eternal consequences.
God is willing to forgive you because if we confess our sins he is faithful and just to forgive us.
It is possible to feel sad and overwhelmed by people who are willing to judge you for your mistake.
Yet remember that Christ Jesus understands you, with your struggles, failures, and conflicts you are the object of all his infinite love.
If you ask Him for help, no one will understand you better than Him.
Receive from Him the words of God:
“Go and sin no more.”
I hope this text is of great blessing to your life.
I wish you could understand that no matter what mistake you made, God is willing to give you forgiveness.
We look forward to your comment down here.